For those of you who don’t get Above Rubies Magazine or who have not yet received your copy, here is a copy of my article in the latest issue:
A MOTHER DESPERATE FOR GOD
I hear comments such as “You have good children.”
“I thank God,” I respond. It is the honest truth. You see, I have a husband who loves me and looks to me to be his helper. Me? I have nothing in my upbringing that qualifies me to be a good and godly wife (I grew up in a broken Muslim home and every relative I knew, had a broken home too). So, I cleave to the Rock that is higher than I.
Then there are four, soon to be five, lovely children who call me “Mama.” They expect me to nurture and train them. But who am I that I should undertake such a task? I, myself, have never known the love of a mother. From infancy, my older brother, younger twin brothers and I, were brought up by a single father. Raised in a small African country, Rwanda in East Africa, this was not common. Single mothers yes, but I had never met single fathers. With the help of servants, we carried on and my father did his best to care for us.
But now, here I am, called to be a Mother… How do you become what you have never seen modeled? I thank God for the living Word! God has not left any aspect of our lives, including mothering, out of His Word. He has given us instructions for all areas of life (2 Timothy 3:16). So we can confidently say, “when my father and mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up.” Psalm 27: 10. So where does a mother such as I look and where do I turn for help? Time and time again, I turn to the One who created the mother of all living!!
It is written, “Without Me you can do nothing” (John 15:5). This is absolutely true. Without God, I cannot grow the little one in my womb. Once the baby is born, I cannot make it nurse or sleep. How could you explain to me that I could take a child who has only been in diapers and somehow get it in his brain that he can use the potty, without the help of God? Or a child who has never spoken before, that I could teach them to talk or walk, etc. There are many day to day routines in our mothering, that we can easily overlook the hand of God at work in our homes.
At the end of the day, when I see our children fed, bathed, clothed, and tucked in bed, I thank my God because I know I could not have done it without Him. Some may laugh saying, “You couldn’t even make a meal?” No, I could not, not without Him giving me strength and guiding me how. Having been brought up with servants, house keeping, cooking etc was not an area I was trained in. And to my shock, in this country in which I got married in, Canada, servants are hard to come by to say the very least… You can imagine what life has been like for me as a homemaker. Haah!! There is much for me to learn.
So, I look at my little ones and I am filled with awe. I have not forgotten where I have come from and who I am without Jesus. It is only Him who has made them the wonderful children they are. Oh how I have cleaved to His Word, “All thy children shall be taught of the Lord, and great shall be the peace of thy children” (Isaiah 54:13). This has been my constant prayer: from infancy to toddler, and every new season we step into. Every new change in our lives; in homeschooling; and in every travel to a new city or new country (we travel a lot as missionaries). I trust Him to teach them and prepare them for what’s ahead. Does that mean, I don’t teach my children and do my part in raising them? No, It simply means that I know I am limited to what I can do. But I thank God that with Him, nothing is impossible.
So how do you do it? How do you raise all these children? How do you travel with them? These are among some of the questions I get. The honest truth is that I am just a woman desperate for God because I know, “Except the Lord build a house, they labor in vain that build it” (Psalm 127:1).
May God help us mothers to cry out to Him constantly for it is “Not by might, nor by power but by My Spirit,’ saith the Lord of hosts” (Zechariah 4:6). What a Wonderful God we serve! What a Redeemer! What a faithful God! To Him be all the glory.
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